My Mom Jeans


Okay, so I don’t think I actually own a pair of mom jeans yet, but my wardrobe has changed dramatically over the past few years.  I went from dressing for fashion reasons to dressing for practical reasons.  I haven’t had a consistent wardrobe for exactly 4 years and 9 months.  I have separate clothes for maternity, nursing, “haven’t lost all the baby weight”, “someday maybe these will fit again”, and “I don’t leave the house – why get dressed”. Who made the rule that I can’t wear my p.j.’s to the grocery store anyway?  I do (usually) put real clothes on when leaving the house, but I am more certain than ever that I have, in fact, lost all sense of style.  I actually have 2 nice outfits and wear them over and over. So I hope you don’t see me two days in a row because changes are you may see me wearing the exact same thing!  And if you do see me, please don’t judge!  Shop for more clothes you say?  I try, I really do, but I find more pleasure in shopping for my children than myself! Isn’t that a mom’s predicament?  I have to dress myself and 3 kids everyday… and some days even my husband!  No wonder my fashion sense is gone!

Whether shopping or looking through my closet, I always ask “does this hide my tummy”, “can I pull this shirt up to nurse without stretching it out”, “what will this look like with spit up all over it”, “is this dry clean only”, “have my friends seen me in this more than twice this week”, etc.  “Blah” is usually what I end up saying as I throw on a sweatshirt!  I know there are more pressing matters and fashion shouldn’t be on my list of stressors; however, it is and I fight with myself everyday (unless I just stay braless in an oversized t-shirt and sweatpants)!

And the extras?  I only wear jewelry when I feel like asking my children a million times to stop pulling on it.  I will start wearing perfume again when my baby isn’t rubbing his head in my neck and chest.  I may wear high heels again when I am sure I won’t have to chase my toddler down in the parking lot!  For now, it seems like tennis shoes, jeans, and a sweatshirt are my best bet!

I know all you moms have more style than me, so how do you stay fashionable in the midst of motherhood?


  1. I can SO relate to this! In fact, I actually found myself shopping for a pair of jeans because they were comfy and not low rise and I thought…uh oh, mom jeans!!! I still remember the days of high heels and accessories. Ah, memories! I can’t answer your question because I am certainly not a mom who has more style than you. 🙂

  2. Wow…I just had to comment because this sounds exactly like me! Especially the “will this shirt hide my tummy?” part. That’s pretty much my #1 requirement in clothes anymore. I swear every morning I tell myself in frustration that its time to go shopping…yet I never seem to get around to it!

  3. HA LOVE that picture up there! So funny and seriously-preach it sister! I so feel you on every aspect of this subject. Growing up I’d look at the way my mom dressed, other mom’s dressed and totally judged them thinking ‘no way am I going to dress like that when I’m a mom’
    Fast forward 20 years- ta da! Momwear! I suppose its inevitable. Funny enough, I got dressed up this morning and came home to throw on my comfy stuff, hey-why wash the nice stuff and let it get the used, shrunken look if I can wear it a few hours and hang it back up, nice and clean, right?

  4. Dry clean? What’s that? 🙂

    I wear heels for work only, and often regret that when I realize my son is taking off through the library yelling, “Chase me! Chase me!” Maybe that’s a good excuse to go shopping for more flats…

  5. It could 145 degrees but if we are going to something dressy with the kids like a wedding I take a cardigan because at some point I will be wearing someone’s something. Food, bodily fluid, whatever….and the moment of impact will inevitably be 2 seconds before a picture will be taken.

  6. Great post! You completely captured how I feel about getting dressed everyday…it doesn’t help that I work from home too…so even less of a reason to ever put on anything “nice.”

  7. when i had my first son, i made a promise to myself that i would always continue to dress nice and wear make-up everyday. i have kept that promise, one more baby and 3 years later! now, don’t get me wrong…i’m not judging the moms who wear sweatpants and ponytails. it’s just not me—it never was before i had kids, and that’s why i didn’t want it to be me after i had them. i’ll admit it seemed silly at first, considering i gave birth to sam in august, finished my master’s degree that same december, and did not have a job until 1 week after his 1st birthday. a whole year that i could have spent in my pajamas! but nope, i didn’t…i do limit myself though. for example, i don’t allow myself more than 10 minutes for my make-up, and 10 more for my hair. yes, that’s all! i can’t justify (for myself) any more time being spent on getting ready. as for my clothes…i am a teacher, and i love to wear cute clothes. however, what mommy has time to shop? my advice: never get rid of the basics (your favorite pair of jeans, a good cardigan, a pencil skirt that matches any shirt, etc…). i literally wear clothes that i’ve had since high school, and if paired with the right thing, i think it still works! anyways, i say to all you mommies: make the choice for yourself. and more importantly, be happy with the choice you make. if you want to go to the grocery store in your pajamas, go ahead, and be happy with yourself when you do! as for me, i’ll be there in my heels, pushing one boy in the race-car cart and chasing the other one down the cereal aisle. 🙂

  8. I just keep basics in my closet- jeans, capris, tee shirts, long sleeve tee shirts, and hoodies. If it’s clean, I throw it on. And yes, I have them in all sizes now since having a baby. When we go out on dates is when I stray from the norm and “dress up”. But you know what, I think jeans, a tee shirt, and a hoodie is pretty darn cute (and my husband agrees)! Add a ponytail and make-up and I’m good to go just about anywhere!

    P.S. I did go out and buy some better fitting jeans after reading this post. 🙂


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