Life is better with friends. I think any of us can agree that REAL, I-don’t-have-to-clean-my-house-or-pretend-anything friends are priceless.

Angela’s post last week about prioritizing hit the nail on the head. YOU HAVE TO SCHEDULE YOUR PRIORITIES FIRST and then fit everything else in around them.

Pre-kids, it was no big deal to find time for couple friends, but parenthood writes a whole ‘nother story.

A couple summer’s ago, I read “For the Love” by the ever hilarious Jen Hatmaker. In it, she writes about her supper club. I read the chapter, practically drooling over the type of community she had with her supper club.

“When I recall our first Supper Club, I’m tickled we had to introduce ourselves, becuase now I know everything that ever happened to these people since the day they were born. I know their middle names, everything about their parents, every nuance of their kids, their music, habits, dreams, most embarassing moments, failures, secrets, preferences (even if Wolfgang Puck crafted  it from ground-up dust of fairy wings, Brand would not eat dessert), future plans, humor, everything.

Our families vacation together each summer because this turned into something more than dinner, as good things often do. … We have the funniest group texts on planet Earth, and should they ever become public, we will all move to Peru.”

Yup, that’s what we wanted.

So, we took a leap and made it happen and almost two years later, our supper club is still a vital part of our life. (With many more years to come).

Here’s how YOU can start your own supper club.

Step 1: Choose 3-4 couples you want to spend more intentional time with.

This could be acquaintances you would like to get to know better or friends you’re already close to. Ask them if they want to start a supper club with you!

Step 2: Make a standing date

The third Friday of the month, for example. If you don’t do this, scheduling it will become a pain and it will fall off. If your set date doesn’t work for multiple couples, you can reschedule that month. This will keep SC on your calendar and therefore, you will happily sup together once a month. (Feeling ambitious? Feel free to meet every couple weeks! It seemed like for us, once a month was most realistic.)

Step 3: Rotate who hosts and cooks

Originally, we rotated homes each month and the host couple cooked every morsel. You could do it this way, with the guests supplying the wine/drinks. But we shifted to something a little less stressful since we all have little ones. Now the host chooses and makes the main course and the rest of the crew covers dessert, appetizers, and sides. (Notice I mentioned dessert first. It’s a VITAL component, okay?) Kevin and I LOVE to get our “foodie-on” and try new gourmet things for Supper Club that we wouldn’t cook normally. Last month we hosted and chose to make a Shepherd’s pie with lamb … it was YUM.

Step 4: Get babysitters

As parents, it can be hard to make kid-free time for ourselves. When we finish the bedtime marathon, we’re exhausted and doing something like this seems so luxurious (guilt-inducing, almost.) But that’s hogwash. You need kid-free friend time to fill your cup. Just try it if you don’t believe me. (Our supper club meets around 8 or 8:15pm so we can still do most of the bedtime routine ourselves. This makes it easier to find babysitters when you aren’t roping them into bedtime shenanigans.)

*At the QCMB, we are here to help! (Not to babysit your kids, HA!, but here is a great post we wrote about finding good babysitting, even when you don’t have family in town.)

Step 5: Do life with your friends

Supper club is just one way we try to live our lives in community. I know we couldn’t parent nearly as well without the advice and encouragement of our “village.” Supper club is one facet of that village and I am so grateful for them. 

It’s astounding what a little love, laughter, and comfort food shared around a table with precious friends can do to nurture and refill your soul.

Do you have a supper club? If so, what does it look like? If not, what are you waiting for?!








Olivia is a girl who loves Jesus, is head over heels about her hubby and is beyond thankful for her three miracle babies. Olivia also has lots of children in heaven as a result of recurrent miscarriages. She is passionate about bearing and sharing hope with those walking through the darkness of infertility and miscarriage, and is working on a book entitled "Bearing Hope: Navigating the Darkness of Waiting for a Child." She still can't believe how awesomely God brought Coleton into her family through adoption, and how He blessed them with Annabelle thirteen months later. Baby Calvin was born a couple years later. She teaches yoga, writes, and runs to keep her stress levels under control. On any given day, you might find her singing worship songs in the kitchen, sniffing essential oils, or curled up in the corner crying because mommying is hard. She relies on good friends, holy yoga and yummy food to keep her sane. Read more of her stuff at Liv Ryan.


  1. I’m pretty much obsessed with this idea. I was curious if you brought your kids along, and love that you do it just couples. I could see it working well either way, actually. We have family friends and it would be fun to intentionally meet and let the kids play, too. But you are pushing me over the edge – need this in my life. Thanks for the tips, Olivia.

    • We have talked about doing a lunch picnic with the kids included, but we keep remembering how stressful it might be compared to the way it is now, and we keep putting it off (shhh, don’t tell the kids ;). But there have been a few birthday parties where we all gathered, littles and all, and let’s just say chaos reigns. In the book, Jen lists out the rules and one of them says “No kids. (Since we have sixteen children between us, SC starts at 8:00pm and the hosts’ kids are already in bed or bribed with Cheetos and movies. The other parents get sitters — unless they are awesome like me and Melissa and have big kids to babysit, in which case actual supervision is an incredibly loose concept.)” lol. Another rule is “All anyone can bring to SC is wine. And you’d better bring some or die trying.” <– and we do!! <3

  2. We have had a Supper Club over 19 years!! We meet once a month and it has been such a blessing in our lives. We have 4 couples and we have had get away weekends together, gone on a cruise together, but mostly just enjoy dining, laughing, visiting and playing games in each other’s home monthly. We are family now!

  3. Hosting my first supper club tonight! Praying it turns into a tradition for many years ahead. I was also inspired by Hatmaker’s book and a good friend who has been doing this for over a year. Excited!

  4. I was hoping the tips would include how to have a babysitter when being the Host. My question is how does the Host couple do a babysitter, while hosting? I have a 4yo and one on the way, and I’m trying to figure out how to make this work for me lol. Right now, my current group just all takes turns hosting potluck-style and with our kids, but I’m craving the same thing in a kid-free setting!


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