I am all for comfort and function, especially as a busy mom, but I found that when I kept choosing baggy shirts and yoga pants that I just didn’t feel like myself.
I was caught in yet another #momlife oxi-moron – wanting to hide but also wanting to be noticed. Wanting to pour all of me into being a mom and also wanting to just say “I quit!” and go on an extended vacation.
Suddenly, I didn’t have make time for myself. I felt frumpy and gross the majority of the time, and while some of that comes with the territory of new mommydom, I honestly didn’t know that it didn’t have to be my reality for the rest of forever.
I didn’t know how to put an outfit together anymore and the only accessories I was wearing were a breast pump and spit up.
If any of this made you eek out “omygosh that’s me!”, then keep reading because I promise that you can be a good mom and feel good about yourself ALL AT THE SAME TIME.
On learning to get dressed again
My personal story involves a heavy dose of poor self confidence style-wise pre-babe, and a life-crisis of sorts post-babe.
I literally did. not. know. how to get dressed anymore. Nothing fit, things weren’t where they used to be (and I’m not talking about the clothing in my closet), and in general nothing was working.
Somewhere along the way, I came out of my new mom fog and realized that this is not what I wanted my life to look like. That I (and my guys) deserved better.
I started to schedule time for things that were life-giving to me. Learning, writing, time reading the Bible.
I began to learn to only say yes to the best things and no or not now to the rest.
I started exercising regularly and being more mindful of what I was putting in my body.
I also learned about this new body shape that I had acquired (thanks, Logan) and how to flatter it.
Now, I definitely don’t have it all figured out. I wouldn’t call myself a fashionista by any means. BUT, I know what to look for when I shop now, I am learning what looks best on my body type, and I am spending far less time crying in my closet.
I teach women a simple two-part formula for getting dressed in my More Than Jewelry Facebook Group. If that sounds helpful to you, come join us by clicking here!
I think that when we look good, we feel good. It takes a layer off and helps us breathe a little. It clears some of the mental and emotional fog so that we can deal with some of the deeper things going on inside our hearts and minds.
Because I’m not wasting valuable brain power on what to wear or letting my emotions get the best of me because nothing looks good, I have more energy and love to give to my people.
Plus, I look good, feel good, and can get ready super quickly.