When I left home at 18 to go to college knowing I would get married a little more than a year later, I never expected to move back in with my parents.

I was disappointed to move in with my parents at age 42. After surviving a massive stroke in 2011 at the age of 38 and losing physical ability and identity, I never dreamed I would eventually also lose my home and family. It was something I could not have anticipated and never would have chosen.survived a massive stroke blessings in disappointment joanne heim

I’d been married for 23 years, had two teenage children, and had managed my own home for more than half my life. Though I was disappointed with my living arrangements, I was also grateful that they gave me a place to live and made me welcome. After a season of neglect and abuse, being in a safe place where I was cherished, loved, protected, nurtured and challenged was far more blessing than disappointment.

Because of my parents’ exceptional love and care, my post-stroke recovery took off as I re-engaged with people around me and the world at large. I slowly emerged from a deep depression and began to think of myself as a survivor rather than a victim, taking an active interest and role in my recovery.survived a massive stroke blessings in disappointments joanne heim

I don’t think it’s too much of an exaggeration to say that I wouldn’t be where I am today and might not even be alive today were it not for the disappointment of moving back home when I did. While it was not my choice, it was what God knew I needed most and brought about in the midst of great heartache and disappointment.

I hope and pray that I will never forget it and that in the face of disappointments to come, it will help me to look for the blessings hidden in them. The life I have today is not one I planned or chose, but it’s the one I’ve been given and it is good.

When I focus on the blessings and the good and look for things to be thankful for, that’s what I find. What we focus on grows until it fills our sight, so let’s choose carefully and look for the things we can be thankful for until gratitude becomes our default focus.

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Swimming with dolphins pre-stroke

Joanne Heim was a publicist, senior copywriter, and editor in the publishing industry for over ten years. She is the author of Living Simply: Choosing Less in a World of More and of Misplacing God. You can purchase her books on Amazon. A former frequent speaker for MOPS, she has been interviewed on numerous radio and television programs, including Focus on the Family and Moody’s Midday Connection.


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